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|9 Mar|4 mins

How to Shake Up Your Social Circle

Where to Meet Your New BFFs
Sarah Tarca
9 Mar
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Remember when you were a kid and friendship was just like, “OMG I love rainbow Paddle Pops too!! Lets buy best friend charms!!” Good times. But like many things, when you step into the adulting world, everything seems to get a little bit harder. And making new buddies is one of them. Because, without the forced social environment of school or uni (not to mention the distinct lack of Paddle Pops) how do you even meet your future BFF? First of all, you need to quiet the self-doubt, pull on your confident pants and put yourself out there. Because ain’t no one met their soul sister while six seasons deep into a Netflix binge. So, ready to find your new tribe?

Take a Class

A lot of the time, making friends is about proximity – hello, work wives! So, by signing up for a course that interests you, not only will you be exposed to people who already share your interests, you’ll also see them regularly which gives you time to build a friendship (and casually suggest an after-class coffee). Plus, as a bonus you also get some mad new skills too.

Advice
|9 Mar|4 mins

How to Shake Up Your Social Circle

Where to Meet Your New BFFs
Sarah Tarca
9 Mar
Share:

Remember when you were a kid and friendship was just like, “OMG I love rainbow Paddle Pops too!! Lets buy best friend charms!!” Good times. But like many things, when you step into the adulting world, everything seems to get a little bit harder. And making new buddies is one of them. Because, without the forced social environment of school or uni (not to mention the distinct lack of Paddle Pops) how do you even meet your future BFF? First of all, you need to quiet the self-doubt, pull on your confident pants and put yourself out there. Because ain’t no one met their soul sister while six seasons deep into a Netflix binge. So, ready to find your new tribe?

Take a Class

A lot of the time, making friends is about proximity – hello, work wives! So, by signing up for a course that interests you, not only will you be exposed to people who already share your interests, you’ll also see them regularly which gives you time to build a friendship (and casually suggest an after-class coffee). Plus, as a bonus you also get some mad new skills too.

Head to Your Local

Apparently the pub is not only good for some Dutch courage when it comes to making your big friend move. In fact one study showed that pubs are an ideal meeting place because of the community feel, plus alcohol triggers endorphins that help with social bonding. So, head to your local pub and grab a drink at the bar. If you see someone who looks like your kind of person, strike up a conversation. You’d be surprised at how many people want to have a chat. Plus, it’s pretty much a hall pass to have another rosé, right?

Volunteer

Volunteering has double benefits. See, by signing up for a cause you’re passionate about, you’ll immediately find yourself in a circle of people who already align with some of your core values. Volunteering also attracts people of all ages so you’ll be exposed to much wider (and potentially more interesting) groups with varied life experience. And, if you don’t feel the connection with anyone, well, at least you’re doing something good for humankind (and your soul) so that’s a win too.

Ask Your Friends

We’re going to go out on a limb here and say you probably have at least some friends. Maybe they’re all coupled up, or have babies, or have moved to Siberia, but they’re out there. And you know what friends have? More friends. So, why not ask them if they know anyone who has a book club, or a trivia team or perhaps shares your passion for gelato, and get them to FB intro you? Chances are if they like the person you will too.

Say 'Yes' More

You know what we said about leaving the couch (and Netflix)? That’s something that’s going to have to happen. Go to that march you saw people responding to on Facebook. Say yes to the after work drinks with the co-workers you don’t know that well. Actually show up to the first birthday party of your favourite café. All these things are potential new friend zones, and even if the event itself is a dud, you may share a knowing glance with someone else who clearly thinks that party pies are God’s work, and that could be all it takes for a brand new friendship to bloom.

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Sarah Tarca
Writer